7 questions to find purpose plus a process for better self-alignment

what's one weakness I'm done tolerating?

I want to stop letting my fear of other people's perceived opinions influence how I live


  1. what made me weird as a kid?
    • drumming on everything
    • preferring to be alone
    • reading all the time
  2. what makes me flow?
    • fussing with CSS
    • editing videos
    • working with music
      • writing
      • playing
      • creating in GB
  3. what do people thank me for?
    • what things do you think I'm good at?
    • (Sue) Socratic method and intuition. Good active listener
  4. what's my sentence?
    • how could my life be described?
    • how do I WANT my life to be described?
      • Joel is the kindest most thoughtful person I know because he's a good listener and always has something comforting or practical to say
    • where can I make my biggest contribution?
      • what do the people around me need?
      • we find our purpose by serving others
    • what would I do if I didn't have to make money?
      • Write and record music
      • play with web technology
      • write (at least the Jake Calcutta stories)
    • what will I regret when I'm 90?
      • most regrets are about inaction, not actions
      • biggest regret in surveys: not being bold enough
        1. I didn't do enough for Sue
        2. I didn't spend more time with Fiona doing things she loves
        3. I didn't find a way to travel again
    • what will I be proudest of when I'm 90?
      1. Being a good husband
      2. good father to Fiona
      3. a good friend to the people who love me
      4. my music

it is not true that discipline is the answer to everything. checking every box doesn't matter. I'm still feeling empty

my routine isn't aligned with who I want to be, it's just a long list of things I feel like I'm SUPPOSED to do

what kind of person do I actually want me to be?
not others' expectations
not fitting into the world

stop optimizing myself and check that what I'm doing is making me be more me